My ideal mate is a person who possesses the qualities that I find attractive in myself. The ideal mate would be a woman who loves to smile, converse, relax, eye pleasing, and be true to who they are. These are the necessary characteristics in an ideal mate, but the reality of finding someone who carries these attributes are about slim to none.

The ideal mate must be a woman who loves to smile. On days when situations are going wrong and I become grumpy, my mate will still be able to think of the positive side of every situation and smile to support me. Her smile would bring the warmness and courage that I need to succeed. This smile creates the confidence that I need in myself, and knowing she believes in me will help me believe in myself. A genuine smile is priceless and will always brighten a day.

The ideal mate must be capable of carrying on a conversation. A woman who can intelligently converse as well as listen is difficult to find. It may be a stereotype to think that women either converse too much than they listen or they listen too much than they converse. Nonetheless, from my experiences so far - I have yet to find a woman with some type of equilibrium of listening and conversing. Almost as though the woman is just being silent waiting for her turn to talk instead of really listening to you. The ideal mate would be able to listen, and provide intelligent as well as humorous statements. While it may be tolerable to listen to intelligent conversations half the time, there comes a time where the conversation needs to break into humor. A sense of humor is something that can only be acquired. As a result, finding someone with a sense of humor is more difficult than expected.

The ideal mate must be able to relax every so often. There is nothing more irritable than a person who is always serious and occupied. There are times when I just want to relax, and rest my body wishing time would just pause. My ideal mate would be able to have rest periods where she would like to just relax and spend a day at the park, or at the beach, or even at home without worrying about anything else but relaxing. Granted, adults find it difficult not to worry about situations while they are relaxing, but I am hoping that before the relaxation day takes place, everything in need of worrying is completed. Relaxation helps reduce stress that may cause a relationship to become a war-zone.

The ideal mate must be true to herself. This means that she must always be who she is. A set identity, who would never lie to me or do anything to put herself or the people she loves in an awkward position that is avoidable. She would live an honest-open relationship with no lies or secrets. Having an honest-loyal mate completely destroys the worry of her ever cheating. Knowing your mate would never purposely hurt you, and will always be honest to you can bring less pressure and stress out of one's life.

Why does the ideal mate possess the qualities that one finds attractive in oneself? Defining one's ideal mate is almost like dissecting oneself and the qualities of that individual. Similarly, standing in front of a mirror and looking at what one likes about oneself would also answer the ideal mate. When one lists all the details and facts that the ideal mate must possess, they are all traits that will benefit the person listing what that person wants. I crave a woman who acquires the ability to smile, laugh, relax, and converse, and has an identity. I feel these traits are important because they will make ME happy and that is what I am looking forward to the most. Never once is a concern for me that I might not be perfect for her, or that I might not make her happy. Like gazing into a mirror, I only see myself.

Consequently finding this ideal mate may not be possible. I question the fact when someone mentions to me that they have discovered their ideal mate. The first thing that pops into my mind is whether or not that person was manipulated or indirectly forced into becoming that person without even knowing it. Often people of lower awareness are manipulated into believing characteristics that someone forces onto them, and then continually compliments them about those characteristics.

If anyone is searching for their ideal mate, just wait a little longer when scientists are capable of cloning people and maintaining the exact same personality of the original person. Then once they clone comes out in stores, clone yourself and then pay the money to have a sex change on your double (or maybe not.) Ewwwww~~!